My dearly departed grandfather and great aunt always said: “what cost nothing gives good measure”.
It is a parable which sounds complicated but has a very simple meaning.
If you did not pay for something, or if you do not place any value on something you most likely will be careless and reckless with its handling and care.
The malignant cancer of violence and murder in our country and in particular the murder of our women may very well have their Genesis in that parable.
My son uses my wife’s car to deliver piazza when he is home from college, no problem. As soon as he got his own car and his mom borrowed it, he went to great pains to lecture her about not getting a scratch on it.
When we pay for something ourselves or place real value on the things we have access to, or own, we tend to be far more judicious with their care.
Most actions we take lead to consequences down the road. The cheapening of life through our everyday discourse, the music we listen to the movies we watch, violent video games and in Jamaica’s case the wanton degradation some women subject themselves to are only a few of the characteristics which form the perfect conditions for the whirlwind of murder the nation is experiencing today.
At this point, I can hear in my head the fallacious arguments quote: “people get killed everywhere not just in Jamaica.
I can just imagine the Google searches to find mass killings in other parts of the world, ready to copy and paste in the rebuttal to the legitimate angst we feel at the unnecessary and wanton shedding of blood.
Defending killings is now a noble way to spend time for many.
For those concerned, not just about the run-away murders and the resultant consequences of the trauma on the nation’s children, I ask, no I beseech you, take a stand against this lunacy.
For far too long this perverse and macabre way of life have dominated our popular culture while we go on living as if nothing is wrong, or that nothing can be done about it.
If the politicians seem unable or unwilling then the people must stand up for the country we were blessed with and demand that this madness stop.
But before we do that, we need to make some changes in our own lives.
We must eschew violence and the glorification of it.
We must stop speaking it to our children. We must stop listening to the murder music and We must anchor our
Women must stop cheating on their spouses and significant others, out of greed for material possessions or sexual lust.
Men must stop believing that the women in their lives are a disposable commodity which can be replaced with another.
Many of you claim to love your children yet you kill their mothers and leave the very same children, your children, traumatized for life.
Others kill Both the women who bore their children and the children of their loins. You are sub-human, you are beneath the animals, you are monsters.
There is no escaping the stark realities of the(“materialistic bun culture,”) women who want more than the men in their lives can afford, who cheat to get material things they cannot afford.
Women who insist that the men in their lives have to steal to-be with them.
This is something I have written about for years.
Oh for the times whilst I was an officer looking real spiffy in my uniform, and the women who openly flirted with me. ” B
All this while decked out in Jewellery from ear to toes.
Where do-you think the jewelry came from?
I am not laying this solely at the feet of women as I am almost certain some will argue. Far from it, all I am saying is that much of what men do begins with what women demand, what women teach, and what women allow.
Why have sex with a man who has made no commitment to you? Why have a child with a man who has another woman or worse, several other women?
Why have children with a man who cannot stay out of jail? Why complain when you gave up your power several children ago when you had the power to say “NO”?
Many female birds will not mate with the male of their kind unless he first builds a suitable nest and decorates it inside and out, upon which she inspects it and decides whether it is good enough.
If she doesn’t like what she sees, she Flies away and its all for naught.
On the other hand, when women make demands that men cannot meet they tend to push the envelope to get what their women want. Children in the relationships observe the power dynamics playing out live what they learn.
The men who strive for material trappings through whatever means, largely tend to do so to attract women as one of their primary motivations.
This places us in the same category as the male peacock which shows off its awesome plumage to attract the female.
We have a twisted value system which glorifies and lust for material extravagance rather than places the appropriate value on life. The insatiable and rapacious desire to have the best of everything have cheapened life and turned humans into monsters.
A woman visiting the United States walked into my business-place with her elderly father, the father wanted to purchase a cell phone for her to use while she is visiting. He also needed a phone she could use when she returned to Jamaica.
She was embarrassingly ungrateful, berating her father for not having wi-fi at home in front of other customers and myself.
The gentleman explained he did not need wi-fi as he was gone all day, on his return home at nights [he explains], he watches a little television and that was that.
That did not appease her but she went on to demand that her elderly father purchase the newest i‑phone. He balked at spending that much money which he seemingly did not have, or wanted to spend.[he had a flip phone]
She insisted she wanted unlimited data, so I asked her if she had unlimited data back home , she responded in the negative.
She cannot afford unlimited data in Jamaica but she berated and embarrassed her elderly father
The Christian values we were raised on have long become a topic of scorn and derision, it is fairy tales, nonsense, we are now too intellectually forward-leaning to believe in a God we cannot see.[sic]
How dare anyone place any restrictions on our lascivious and materialist pursuits?
How dare anyone expect that we respect elders, our teachers, the laws, how dare anyone tell us Jamaicans what we can and cannot do?
When we sow the wind we reap the whirlwind, it is that simple.